A Week Ago...

...since Holly left us.

The funeral was perfect (if any funeral can be). I truly feel we did her proud. The service was beautiful, simple and meaningful. Holly didn't particularly like hymns, we always went to the services that didn't have any (they were also quicker!). I chose 2 songs that Holly loved and I felt would mean a lot to her. They were Defying Gravity (from Wicked but Holly preferred the Glee version so thats what we had!) and Halo by Beyonce. Truly lovely songs with words that really meant something.
I also chose a poem:

God looked around his garden
And found an empty place,
He then looked down upon the earth
And saw your tired face.
He put his arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God's garden must be beautiful
He always takes the best.
He knew that you were suffering
He knew you were in pain.
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.
He saw the road was getting rough
And the hills were hard to climb.
So he closed your weary eyelids
And whispered, 'Peace be Thine'.
It broke our hearts to lose you
But you didn't go alone,
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home.

I think that says it all. On the way to the funeral we took a route that took us past Holly's primary and secondary schools, it was so moving as both schools had pupils and parents outside to pay their respects to Holly. The sun came out as we went into church. However the rain came down as we said our final goodbyes at the cemetary. I think it was definitely Holly's sense of humour, I'm sure she watched me spend ages straightening my hair and thought it would be amusing to ensure it went frizzy!

It was so wonderful to see so many friends and family, and also to see so many of Holly's school friends. It was also amazing to see so many of my wonderful friends from ward C2. It must be so tough for them, they also live with the fear of losing their children and I felt truly humbled to see them. It shows how much Holly was loved by everyone she met.

Thanks to the generosity of everyone at the funeral we have raised in excess of £1700 for Families Against Neuroblastoma and The Sick Childrens Trust, an amazing amount and money still coming in.

The local paper (who have followed Holly's journey) did a lovely front page tribute to Holly -

http://www.hertfordshiremercury.co.uk/Cheshunt-and-Waltham/Farewell-to-courageous-Holly-12.htm
(sorry, it doesn't let me link it so please copy and paste to see article)

This week has been so busy. I have thrown myself into organising the "perfect" day for Holly, I now feel a little lost. I don't want to have too much time to think, to remember, to hurt. I know I have to let go, I know I have to grieve but it is just too hard at the moment. I know she was too poorly, I know she wasn't going to get better, I know she is in a better place and her body is healthy again now. As any cancer mum will tell you, you start grieving as soon as you get the diagnosis. I have been grieving for 13 months. I don't know what I would have done without all my fantastic family, my friends, my beautiful children and Ben. He has held my hand through all of this and I am truly grateful for his strength (and at times his very dark sense of humour!!!!). I know he wants me to properly grieve and cry, and I will I'm sure. I am glad that he will be the one that I can do that with.

I started this blog to chart Holly's brave journey, now that journey is at an end I am not sure what to do about the blog. I do hope that it will help other people who find themselves facing the awful diagnosis of neuroblastoma. I do hope that one day it will help Izzy and Harry to realise what a truly amazingly brave big sister they have.